The most important thing in life is happiness. So what happens when you suddenly find yourself in a place where you are not happy? You feel confused about your choices and you start to question every little thing that you experience. This can quickly cause your feelings and energy to follow a huge downward slope. What most people fail to realize when they are in this place is that YOU are in control of your own happiness. Do not let others control your mood because it is so easy to allow that to happen.
For example, one of my friends had been in a relationship for almost a year. During the last few months of the relationship, her and her boyfriend had been on and off constantly. They had broken up and gotten back together at least 4 different times within a few months. Every time they got back together, they were happy for a little while but then they quickly realized that things just were not going to work out. During these last few months, they were confused about their own happiness. When they were apart, they were happy but they missed each other. However, when they were together they were not happy but they were in a place of comfort because each other was all they felt they wanted at the time. I never fully understood why they kept going back to each other because my friend always seemed much happier when she was single. I guess it was the attachment she felt towards her boy and that was okay, but the relationship started to be unhealthy for everyone.
Finally, the last time they broke up, my friend came to her senses. She realized that she was in control of her own happiness and that the only way she would remain happy was if she did what was right for her. She left him, and even though it was incredibly difficult for her, she has been extremely happy since she left him. I am so proud of my friend for taking control over her own life and I would like for many teens to learn this lesson as well! You should never allow yourself to become stuck in a situation that you know you are not happy in. Like I stated earlier, happiness is the most important part of life, so you should never let someone else take that away from you. YOU are in control, so take control. You can always make changes to your life that will make you happier, so there is no reason not to do so. Don't worry about being judged by others or being pressured into doing something you don't feel right about. Worry about yourself and your own happiness, because that should always come first.
-B
