Goodbye 2011, It Has Been Great!

Happy New Year! What are your resolutions?

     Ah, another year has gone by far too quick, and as we approach 2012, I have been thinking a lot to myself about why New Year's Eve and Day are so important to people. After all, it's just another day isn't it? Well, yes, but symbolically, no. A new year represents a fresh start for most people. Everyone makes resolutions and plans on bettering their selves. So, what are your resolutions for 2012?
Mine are as follows:

• To not over-think. This has been a problem for me over the past year. I always think way too much about every situation I get myself into. Over-thinking does nothing good for me. It just makes me jump to negative conclusions and worry far too much about what ever is going on.
• To focus on the right people. I need to stop trying to be friends with people that only want to use me or who don't really care about me. I need to concentrate on the people in my life who I know for a fact care about me and my life.
• To stop wasting my money. I need learn how to conserve my money and not blow it all off on Starbucks and food!
• To pay attention and carry out ideas I get from my inspirations. I want to not only allow things and people to inspire me, but I want to actually create from what inspires me. If you want to know what that means, you will have to wait and see! ;-)
• My final resolution is to not be so hard on myself. When I say I am my biggest critic, I mean it. I concentrate way to much on my flaws and how wrongly I approach situations, but in 2012, I am going to try and realize that I am a good person, and not everything is my fault all the time.

     2011 was a great year for me. I have grown so much as a person and have been incredibly blessed to experience so much. I went into the year saying I was going to do everything over the top, and I think I have lived up to that for the most part. All I can say about 2012 is that I can feel I am going to experience even more and grow even more than I ever thought I would as a person. I have so many exciting things planned or 2012 and I can't even wait to share it with you all!
     So, tomorrow is January 1st, 2012- it's just another day isn't it? Well, yes, but symbolically, no.

-B

Merry Christmas!

I hope you all have an amazing Christmas, having fun with family and friends!

It isn't Christmas with out Mariah Carey... LOL!

Happy Holidays!

-B



Relationships: Person A

Can Someone Actually Be Incapable of Love?

     Love is something just about everyone in this world wants to find, and very few actually do find it. But what does Love mean to you? Does it mean forever? Or does it mean happiness for right now? Either way, we all want it.

     Now I am definitely not a 100% expert when it comes to relationships, especially when it comes to myself, but I love to talk about it and it’s a topic that everyone can relate to. Over the past year or so, I have been obsessed with making relationships the main topic of conversation with my friends, and I feel that I have learned so much that I can finally write about it, which is something I haven't done on here before.
     One thing I have learned is that there are several different categories of people in the dating world. One type has been catching my attention a lot lately, and that is the person who is completely indecisive when it comes to finding someone and they are even often said to be incapable of love.
     Let’s call this type of person “Person A”. This type of person thinks they know just exactly what they want. This is, most of the time, based off of a person they have a major crush on (Person B). Person A just thinks they want these certain qualities in a person and that Person B matches the description perfectly, when really it is the exact opposite.
     When Person B finally wants Person A, Person A is so excited and happy… at first. Then, just as Person B is finally going to make their move, Person A backs off and shuts down emotionally. They want someone else suddenly, or the “timing in their life is just off.” No. Let’s back up for a second… Person A has been so obsessed with Person B. They have been waiting and waiting and waiting on Person B to make their move and they just know it is going to happen because Person B has got to be “the one”- hey, they match the list perfectly! Yeah, what happened to all of that?
Person A:

• Doesn’t know what they really want, but thinks they do.
• Scared of a failing relationship.
• Insecure in their own abilities to stay in a long term relationship.
• Scarred from a past relationship or possibly a parents’ divorce.

     The cure? While I’m not quite sure if there is a cure for Person A, you don’t need to worry. I don’t believe there is such thing as being incapable of love. All you need to do, which is typically a huge problem for Person A, is realize what your problems are. Why don’t you keep wanting what you swear is right for you? And why do you back off as soon as what you so desperately want comes to you? Check the bullets above.
     Probably the more challenging thing about Person A is that not only are they hurting their selves, but they are also hurting Person B. Most of the time when people are in this type of situation, the same scene plays out over and over again with the same two people. It’s because Person A, time after time, keeps thinking they are finally ready to claim what they want, when in reality, they are not ready at all. The cycle just keeps going.
     The point of this is, if you are Person A, realize why you keep backing off. You really need to get to understand the reason behind your actions and reactions. Then you need to explain all of that to Person B. The #1 rule in relationships is that you should never leave your significant other (or potential significant other) wondering what is going on in your brain. Put everything out in the open and be 100% honest. When you tell Person B all of your reasons for your backing off and changing your mind, they will become more understanding. That doesn’t mean everything will be perfect and live happily ever after. That person could end up not wanting you at all because they know you will never end up committing. So then, this is what you need to do, Person A: as my friends and I would say, “You needs ta RE-CAL-CUH-LATE”. Train yourself to start thinking differently and going into relationships with a different mindset. Don’t over-think everything. Know that you are capable of being in a relationship and really get to the root of what you want and why you want that. Person A, it can take a while for you to break your habits. But if you keep working towards it, you will eventually get what you really want.

There you go, my first blog about relationships!

I hope you enjoyed and I would love to hear what you think!

-B



Winter Wear at Express!

My Current Favorite Looks

As many of you know, Express is one of my favorite stores...

I love it especially during the winter time, so here are a few of my current favorite winter looks from Express! (Pictures courtesy of the Express store website.)

Stay Stylish and Express Yourself,

-B

Fascinate Pics

"Lost Control"

-B

"Whats goin on"

A Heartfelt Video from A Victim of Bullying    

    

     Today, my best friend Melissa said she had to show me a super sad video. She said the video had made her cry but I should just watch it anyway. So we watched it together. This is a video of a kid named Jonah who is going through school being bullied by other children. He doesn't actually speak out loud, but he has written his story on a number of note cards. At the end, he becomes strong. I hope that this can inspire you to take action against bullying, because no other child should feel this way and this issue just has to stop. Please watch.

I am so glad Melissa showed me this, she even suggested me to blog about it so I have to give a huge shout out to her!

I hope you learned from this video, and please do your best to share it with everyone!

Thanks for watching,

Stay Strong Jonah!

-B

Marry The Night

The Latest Video from Lady Gaga, With a Story, Of Course

     I'm sure it isn't a secret to you that I have a passion for artistically creative people that do everything with a meaning, and I'm sure it isn't a secret that I find Lady Gaga to be one of those people.
     A couple days ago, she released a 13 minute and 51 second long music video (her longest one yet) for her latest single titled "Marry The Night". The song itself is a tribute to New York City, where Gaga grew up, and pretty much encountered every significant event that occurred in her life, so it is only fitting to make the video a metaphor for just that.
     The music video is about her journey to becoming successful. It shows the highs and lows of the road to fame, metaphorically of course. Some may not understand this video, but you just have to pay attention and take into account Lady Gaga's story (which includes being dropped by a record label and feeling like her career was going to end up going nowhere). The lesson of this video is to not give up on your dreams, because if you do, then your dream will never see the light of day. Marry the obstacles and challenges you face to get where you want to be. Marry the tough times. Marry the night.

     At the beginning of the video, Lady Gaga narrates:

"When I look back on my life, it’s not that I don’t want to see things exactly as they happened, it’s just that I prefer to remember them in an artistic way.

And truthfully, the lie of it all is much more honest because I invented it.

Clinical psychology tells us, arguably, that trauma is the ultimate killer.

Memories are not recycled like atoms and particles in quantum physics; they can be lost forever. It’s sort of like my past is an unfinished painting and as the artist of that painting, I must fill in all the ugly holes and make it beautiful again.

It’s not that I’ve been dishonest, it’s just that I loathe reality."

 

I hope you enjoyed the video and took something interesting from it!

-B

 

Fascinate Pics

-B